Temper tantrums are common in young children, especially in children between 1 and 6 years old. They sometimes cry in public or shout or become aggressive for whatever reason. For parents, this situation becomes challenging because it is embarrassing for them to deal with such a situation. Hence, to help parents in dealing with child tantrums in public, Lovely Tiny Things presents you an article with some ideas and coping techniques
While showing tantrums, kids not only cry, shout or hit in public, but also hold their breath and sit on the floor stubbornly. Furthermore, this type of behaviour is not restricted to any specific gender of the kids, rather both girl and boy child show-up this kind of behaviour.
Tantrums are the normal part of the child development and it should not take as a major concern. Some kids show off their tantrums rarely whereas some show up often. In general, young children takes up the way of a tantrum when they want their wishes to be fulfilled or when they are hungry or tired. They show their frustration through their temper tantrums.
When children wants to control their environment, more than their capabilities, it leads to power struggles. And when they discover they can't do this alone and can't have everything they want, they may have tantrums. - kidshealth.org
How can parents prevent tantrums?
It is always better to prevent tantrums rather than to deal with a tantrum. Some good ideas may help you if you're struggling with your child's temper tantrums.
1.Give proper attention to your child - When a child gets proper and due attention from his parents, he is less likely to throw tantrums in public. He receives positive behaviour from his parents and so he shows up too.
2. Let your child do certain things alone - We often, as a parent, restrict our child to do even small things alone. The statements like 'do not go there', don't do like this', etc makes a child more irritable and compels him to adopt the method of tantrums.
3.Help your child to learn something new and good - Whenever a child learns any new skill, he gains positivity through learning. And appreciate your child when he does the correct thing. The more positive behaviour he will see, the more positive behaviour he will show.
4. Consider your child's request carefully - Not every request of your child should be rejected. There can be some which are worthwhile. Hence listen to your child's request carefully and consider it, if you find it good and worthy.
5.Let your child know his spending limits - In most scenarios, children do not understand the value of money and demand something costly to parents. Therefore, whenever your child is in a playful mood, explain to him the real value of money and also explain why all things are not worth buying.
How to handle a child tantrum?
Although it is good to prevent those situations which can give rise to tantrums in children. However, not every situation can be considered an ideal one, hence if there comes a situation when you see that your child is showing up tantrums in public, try these ideas and tips which can help.
Never react to your child's tantrum. If you show up your anger in front of your child, it is more likely that child will behave more stubbornly to overpower your reaction in public. Hence, stay calm and try to talk to your child calmly and peacefully. This really helps.
Not every tantrum be handled in the same manner. It should be handled differently depending upon the reason behind your child's tantrum. Sometimes children show up this kind of behaviour when they are tired or hungry, whereas in some cases tantrums are also made due to certain needs of a child. Therefore, the way of handling these tantrums should be different. Someday you may provide comfort or needed attention to your child, whereas in other cases where your child is asking for something, you may distract his attention to some other useful things.
In some cases, it has been observed that kids get cranky and irritable when their parents ask them to do something which they do not want to. Hence, in this case, do not pressurise your child to complete that task or activity. Leave them alone for some time and when they are in their normal happy mood, ask them to do that task. They will likely complete that task as per their parent's wish. It is because children do not love being forced to do a certain task, rather they act upon their will and mood.
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If you see that child is repeatedly doing any forbidden task or any such activity which comes in for safety issues, then use the method of time-out. Or you can hold the child firmly and ask him to stop this activity right away. Make sure you are not supposed to lecture him, rather by making an eye contact ask him to not to do this forbidden task ask. Please understand that if you lecture him, he will repeat this activity, but if you instruct him no to do this again because of safety reasons, your child will not likely to repeat this act.
Finally, if a child is preschool or slightly older, do not shout at him in public. If you do this, it will have a very negative impact on it. So, stop him from doing this in a public place and explain that these things will be discussed at home, or you can leave him alone for a while. This will help your child control his or her emotions correctly.
Remember, temper tantrums in children are the normal phase in their emotional development. As they grow, they overcome these tantrums. However, parents should adopt the way of positive parenting and should behave in patience in order to give best help ans supoort to their little ones.